Dating in college is a wonderful experience, but you must keep certain things in mind, as well. Photo found on tumblr.com.
Top eight things to remember about college dating:
1.) Typically, college couples spend more time together than high school couples. After all, parents are no longer around to set a curfew or to make sure you are sleeping in your own bed at night. While college students may revel in this newfound freedom, remember that “too much togetherness” can have detrimental effects on any relationship. Spending time away from your significant other is not always a horrible idea: each of you needs that time apart to hang out with friends or finish homework assignments. Just because you have the option of spending every waking minute together does not mean you should; most likely, you will only end up getting on each other’s nerves.
2.) The easiest way to meet somebody special is to step out of the dorm room. Socialize with the people who sit next to you in class or live in your residence hall.
3.) Dating someone who lives far away is difficult to do, but long-distance relationships can and do work. Do not let the fear that he or she will find someone else put a damper on the relationship. Weekends and vacations (such as Thanksgiving break) are great times to visit. The distance will make it hard to hear from each other on a regular basis, but Skype, Facebook and your iPhone are great tools that will help you remain close.
4.) Don’t feel afraid to try dating different types of people. Now that you’re in college, you’re probably surrounded by students who are vastly different from the people you grew up with–and this isn’t necessarily a terrible thing. Stepping out of your comfort zone and dating someone you’re attracted to but may not have been your “type” back home may open yourself up to great opportunities.
5.) Be careful whom you decide to live with sophomore year. Most schools require only freshmen to live on campus, so if you’re trying to decide where to live and whom to room with next year, think twice about living with a boyfriend or girlfriend. This goes back to the “too much togetherness” effect–you may start to find each other annoying if you are spending large amounts of time together. Plus, if you break up, you have two options: 1.) deal with the hassle of finding a new place to live, or 2.) continue to live with your ex…who may or may not move on to someone else.
6.) Take advantage of all the fun dating ideas your campus has to offer. A lot of universities hold events that may serve as fun and inexpensive dates: free outdoor concerts, sporting events, dances, movie showings, etc. Keep your eyes and your ears open for ways you and your partner can have fun together on campus–you don’t have to feel confined to hanging out in each other’s dorm rooms.
7.) Don’t forget to let your roommate know if you plan to invite your boyfriend or girlfriend over. Be considerate, and ask for your roommate’s permission first.
7.) I’m not Dr. Ruth or your mother, but if you do decide to have sex with your significant other, please be careful. Finding methods of protection is not that challenging, especially on a college campus. Condoms are available at the local drug store (some schools, including MU, even have condom dispensers in the residence halls), and birth control can be prescribed in a private manner without your parents finding out. An unwanted pregnancy or STD could ruin a college career, so don’t take this issue lightly. It really does only take one time!